Friday, October 9, 2015

A Message from Mom

I don’t know when it became taboo to admit that motherhood is hard. Call me crazy, but I find it far more refreshing to keep it real. So here’s my confession. Unrealistic expectations aside, the daily grind of motherhood is tough.

Let’s face it; being a mom isn’t always as glamorous as a greeting card. We start out our journey to motherhood getting pooped on, peed on, and puked on. We go for months, maybe even years without a decent night of sleep but somehow manage to encourage and wrangle an entire household of individuals to take on each new day. In later years, we become the scapegoat for all of life’s disappointments, regardless of our efforts. All the while, this fun turn of events is all encased in a nice chrysalis of guilt. “Did I do enough? Did they do too much? Should I have worked? Should I have stayed home?” Yeesh! And WHY do we sign up for these not so glamorous 18+ years of sleepless, penniless purgatory? One word. LOVE.

Whether they came to us biologically or through the beautiful miracle of adoption, our children are our treasures. We have loved them before we even knew them and we will love them through all of eternity. Yes, there will be bumps in the road. There will be messes, misunderstandings and disappointments. But there will also be victories, laughter and joy.

I have written myself a little something to help get me through the tough times. Just a short message I tell my children, if only in my head, to help us all carry on. I am posting it here today in hopes that it may help you through your inevitable rough patches as well. Blessings to you mamas! We’re all in this together!

I will never take for granted the One who gave me to you. And so…
When you fall, I will give you my hand
When you hurt, I will hurt with you
When you cry, I will cry with you
When you struggle, I will pray for you
When you succeed, I will celebrate with you
When you make a mess of things, I will teach you
When you are sick, I will care for your
When you are down, I will comfort you
Through all of life’s trials, I’ll be there for you

Love,

Mom

Thursday, October 1, 2015

Make Halloween A Hoot! Your Idea Center for Fall Festivities & Planning

Now that everyone’s back to school, it’s time to start thinking about pumpkin day! My family has always gone big for Halloween and we are all pretty excited that October 31st falls on a Saturday this year. This means we are afforded the time for more fun! I know that some families go all out with the haunted theme and that’s great for them but that’s not really our style. We are more harvest celebration based around here with pumpkins, corn stalks and LOTS OF HAY!

However you choose to decorate, I do hope that you plan for some extra special party time with friends and family this Halloween. If you are looking for a few ideas to help you get started, try a few of these out…

Plan a Block Party

Many cities help block off actual streets for neighborhood celebrations. Contact your local City Hall or Police Station to get started. Whether you block off a street or not, many neighbors have fun planning special festivities together. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. A potluck table, lawn chairs and glow sticks may be all you need.

I recommend having the following…
  • ·      extra flashlights
  • ·      a designated babysitter or adult to supervise the trick-or-treating
  • ·      glow sticks/necklaces (have too many! That way they are sure to load up on colorful safety!)
  • ·      Seating (lawn chairs, hay bails, etc.)
  • ·      A tub of bottled ice water
  • ·      Fun music
  • ·      Safe zones where kids can play


Host a Chili Cook Off

This is one of our favs-although I never actually win! What better way to celebrate the changing of seasons than with some yummy recipes? I usually have baskets of cornbread, crackers, rolls, cheese and sour cream to go along with the chili.

You will need…
  • ·      a table (be sure it is stable! You don’t want spills!)
  • ·      a power strip w/extension cord(for crock pots)
  • ·      slips of paper, pens and a box to cast votes
  • ·      spoons, napkins and bowls
  • ·      a prize for the winner


Have a Costume Contest

I have found that many grown ups have to be given a reason to dress up for Halloween. Having an official costume contest may be all that your group needs to enhance the fun with creative costumes. Some families may surprise you and come as an entire theme while others may be giddy just to dig out that old costume that they’ve saved from high school. Hey, stranger things have happened!

Things to think of…
  • ·      Notice of a costume contest should be given ahead of time so people have time to plan.
  • ·      You may want to include a few guidelines in your notice (i.e. “nothing too scary”, etc.)
  • ·      Establish a voting system, either by cast votes, applause, etc.
  • ·      There should be at least one prize for best costume.


Host a Warming Station

Trick-or-treating can be hard work for both young and old alike. Having a station with a few creature comforts might be just what a haggard trick-or-treater might need.

You may want to include some of these items…
  • ·      Trick-or-treat candy (cuz, why not?!!)
  • ·      Bottled water
  • ·      Seating (hay bails are always fun)
  • ·      A flashlight
  • ·      Warm beverages (cider, coffee, etc). To avoid any safety issues, be sure warm items are handled and tested by adults first. Don’t forget the cups!
  • ·      Baby wipes
  • ·      A garbage can
  • ·      Extra plastic bags (grocery bags work great)
  • ·      Extra glow sticks


Special Activities

Try setting up stations with activities that don’t have to be too closely monitored.

 Here are some ideas…
·      Pumpkin Roll
o   Have lanes where players can race each other by rolling large pumpkins to the finish line.

·      Stuff a Scarecrow
o   This can be done as a race as well.
o   Set up different stations with a pile of hay, a shirt, a hat, a cloth bag with twine, and pants.
o   Players can work in teams or on their own to see who can create a scarecrow the fastest.

·      Pumpkin Seed Shooters
o   Set up jack-o-lanterns on a table/hay bail/etc.
o   Set up stations for shooting about three paces from each jack-o-lantern (shooting range style). These stations should include a spoon and a bowl of pumpkin seeds.
o   One digital timer should be available.
o   The person who shoots the most pumpkin seeds into his/her designated jack-o-lantern within an allotted time (ex.15 seconds) wins!
·      Hay Pile
o   Quite possibly one of the easiest activities that is fun for a variety of ages!
o   Place a tarp on the grass.
o   Cover the tarp with hay.
o   As an option, you can hide small toys, money, etc. in the hay-just be careful that none of these items end up in the mouths of small children.

Over the Top Activities

Perhaps you are that overachiever who is looking for that little extra something to put your celebration over the top. Well, if you feel so inclined, here are some ideas for you…

·      Hire bounce houses
o   Many companies have themed bounce houses and are happy to set them up for your special event.
o   I recommend having a parent there to supervise along with setting some boundaries for safety.
·      Give hay rides
o   Hire/rent/borrow a trailer and a vehicle to tow it with.
o   Place hay bails in the trailer. I recommend setting the bails in the center of the trailer so that no one can fall out.
o   Plan a safe route to take your passengers on a fun “Halloween Hay Ride!”
o   I recommend that you require all child passengers be accompanied by an adult and that you keep the vehicle turned off when loading/unloading passengers.
·      Have a monster mash
o   Like a cake walk-only to the oldie-but-goodie song that matches the theme!
o   Place different pictures of monsters in a circle. Monster pictures should be at least 12”X12” in size. (You decide the level of scariness).
o   The participants will walk from one picture to the next as the music plays.
o   Have a designated person there to start/stop music and draw a card for the winners. When the music stops, a card with a picture on it is pulled.
o   The person standing on the picture that matches the picture on the card-wins!
o   This can be repeated for as many cakes/treats/prizes you have available.
o   I recommend having non-food prizes available for those with food allergies/dietary restrictions.
·      Have a zombie run (For those not too turned off by all things haunted)
o   This is a good game for older kids.
o   Participants are placed into teams. One team is given a pumpkin and then each player on the team is given two flags each. This is the human team.
o   The group without the flags is the designated “zombie” team. They can even be given green t-shirts or sashes to distinguish the two groups better.
o   Mark one end of the field with a “safe zone” (like an end zone) and designate a starting point for both teams.
o   The goal of the human (non-zombie) team is to use all means possible to carry the pumpkin into the “safe zone” without letting a zombie take one of their flags. If a flag is taken, the play starts over. If a player loses both flags, that player is out.
o   Teams are switched once the human team scores 5 points.

While the above is not an exhaustive list of possible Halloween activities, I do hope that it inspires you to brainstorm your own festivities and fun! So get out there and plan something great! It takes those special people who are willing to do a little extra planning that add to our sense of community. 

AND REMEMBER: SAFETY FIRST!!